parents: My Principles


  • Why
    • True goal sustains motivation and quality.
    • True goal simplifies decisions; weakens distractions.
    • Chasing by-products turns scores into the aim; work drifts and shallow hacks creep in.
    • Hit the true goal; by-products follow.
  • What
    • True goal: the change I want in the world or in me.
      • Understand a problem. Build a good tool. Help someone for real.
    • By-products: traces of impact, not the impact.
      • Money, status, follower counts, likes, press.
  • How
    • Decision rule: if metrics were invisible, would I still do this?
    • Substance test: does this improve the work, or just the optics?
    • Systems: tight feedback loops, clear iterations, real users; let by-products emerge.
    • Measure: leading indicators > traces of impact
      • Leading indicators tied to the goal: clarity, depth, solved problems, retained users helped.
      • Track by-products; don’t steer by them.
    • Boundaries: say no to work that boosts numbers but weakens the work.